May 052010

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It was a game-less time for me. Due to a long set of disagreements, I had left my previous gaming group. The town in which I live is lucky enough to have a small gaming store, but I was unaware of any other gamers in my general vicinity. I wanted to game, and I had no one to game with. I lamented for a while, and then I decided to ask some people, who seemed unlikely gamers, if they would be interested in trying D&D.

I asked my family.

When we first started playing, I’m sure that it started out as a convenient way for all of us to hang out for a while. We all live within 10 miles of one another, but due to our various schedules, we were only able to see each other at family functions. As time went on, however, that started to change. We were playing sometimes multiple times a week, and I had as many as seven players at any given time. The biggest change that I noticed came a few weeks ago, when I got a phone call my sister.

I have two younger sisters, both of whom never seemed to be interested in the geeky things that I have long had as a part of my life. This was decidedly the case for the sister closest to me in age. We just have never had a lot in common, and it was with some trepidation that I allowed her into the group. He husband had been playing for a while, and he convinced her to give it a try. It turned out far better than I ever would have expected.

The phone call that I mentioned above was from that same sister, asking me if I wanted to play in the campaign that another member of the group had started. You see, one of my players had enjoyed D&D so much that he had started playing with another group, who was using Pathfinder (we were on D&D 3.5). After we finished gaming, and I had gone home for the night, they sat around talking, and he was talking about how much he enjoyed Pathfinder, and they decided to give it a try that night. They liked it so much, and the GM had some stuff ready, so they decided to make it into a full campaign.

The point to all of this is that of my two sisters, I never would have expected that the older of the two would ever want to play an RPG, let alone be the one who calls to invite me to join a new game. It goes to show that you can often be wrong about the people you’ve known the longest, and you can be very pleasantly surprised at what you learn.

I see a lot of posts from people in various RPG forums looking for a gaming group. There are great resources that exists to do just that. Near by Gamers comes to mind.  However, I have found the best gaming group that I have ever been a part of by looking in what I thought was an unlikely place. We all have people around us that we think don’t quite “get” gaming, and would never want to play. If you need a group, the best advice I can offer is this: go out and make one. You may think that you have no one around that would ever want to game, but you’ll never know until you ask. Take a community that you’re already a part of and see if you can form a gaming community. You might be surprised at the results.

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About Tracy

I love games, and I love to write about games. Hopefully when I write about games, you'll find something to like. I actively play Pathfinder and Savage Worlds, but am always willing to give something new a try. Follow me on Twitter, and check out my openly developed campaign setting for Pathfinder, Savage World, and Fate: Sand & Steam.

  3 Responses to “Building a Community from a Community”

  1. the info was helping…..great work thanks…….

  2. Thanks. Glad to be of assistance.

  3. […] passes and I’m getting a strong desire to play again. I formed a group using my family and when it came time to choose a system to use, I picked 3.5e. I missed my Vancian spell system […]

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